The creative process behind Sans-Filter Sunday is funny: the whole week before I write it, I’m convince it’ll be on Theme A…and when I start writing it, boom, Theme B.
You’re getting Theme B today and here’s the Theme A you miss: I found a way to turn fear and anxiety into excitement and spent most of this week in a state of bliss thanks to that.
It radically changed the way I look at the world and infused me with optimisim.
It’s awesome, frankly.
And so easy to do.
So glad I found this stuf.
Anyway, on to Theme B : Please Punch Me.
7 Years ago, in March 2013, I became a Toastmaster and it was amazing.
I didn’t know at the time but by attending meetings, speaking, leading and learning I was consuming a perfect flow-triggering cocktail.
According to this guy risk is one of the key element to trigger flow. In our mind getting on stage and speaking in front of a crowd is a big risk. It brings similar of physiological reaction as taking more classical risks like extreme sport or picking up a fight with someone.
So, unbeknownst to me, I was getting a shot of flow every-time I’d go on stage at Toastmaster and I loved it.
I Ronnie Sullivaned Toastmaster:
in one semester, I completed 10 prepared speeches, gained my Competent Communicator diploma and fulfilled all of the requirements for the Competent Leader award as well.
A friend of mine took 4 years to do the same.
I met awesome people, learned a ton, it was close to my place…yet after that one semester I stopped.
The reason ?
Not enough punches.
Let me explain.
A big part of Toastmasters is feedback & evaluation.
During a meeting,
Pavla evaluates Bob,
Jean-Jacques evaluates Pavla.
And I loved that: so much feedback, so much chances to improve.
But by the end of that semester, after I’d talk, people would clap, compliment but didn’t give me advice to improve.
I was far from the best speaker I could be, yet people mistook my calm on stage to mastery and were afraid to feedback.
I missed the punches and moved on to another activity where I could grow.
Now I’m back in Toastmaster, I changed club and I told them clearly: Please Punch Me. You’re not helping me if you’re not telling me what I can improve.
We’ll see if they do it, my next Key Note speaking project is in less than 20 days.
Yesterday, unrelated to Toastmasters, someone punched me hard.
And it was … not awesome 😀
But that’s what I need.
The PeaCrea Team and I have been working on a corporate-facing website for a few months now. Here it is:
Everybody complimented this website:
And because I’m just a human and building a business takes a lot of energy, I was glad for the positivity and didn’t look further.
I take full responsibility for this and am grateful for those who thought they were helping with their compliment (plus I believe some of those were sincere).
So yesterday when I showed creativeleadership.cz to an HR friend who could actually be a client, I felt pretty confident.
- People in the video look like they don’t care about your workshop.
- I read your whole website, I don’t know what you’re doing
- This, this and this sentence contain absolutely no information
- Look at this, this and this competitor websites. They look creative and different (subtext: you don’t)
- There’s not even your phone number.
That’s what I needed, today I have a session with Kris about how to correct the website and make it better.
The website will be more efficient, bring more clients and we will thrive.
Compare that to thinking my web is awesome, showing it to potential client who tell me ‘we’ll call you back’ and never hear from them…I much prefer getting punched than that!
The truth or an honest feedback may hurt in the moment but it really is the path to success, growth and a well-examined life.
So, please punch me.
I know I’ll stand back up, wiser, ready to move forward.
and by the way, if you’re building something you care about, you need punches too…lemme know if I can help with that 😉