Self Service Sans-Filter Sunday

You might have noticed that there’s less Sans-Filter Sundays.

It’s because of Corona.

Just kidding it’s because I didn’t feel like writing them (not everything is because of Corona).

I’m still producing podcast and lives tho, so there’s that.

Today I was updating a page on PeaCrea and I realized that there are some commonalities with SFS so I’m bringing it to you: it’s called a Now Page.

I heard this concept first from Lukas Liebich who heard it first from Derek Sivers. I loved it and decided to create mine.

What is a Now Page? In Derek’s words:

a page that tells you what this person is focused on at this point in their life. For short, we call it a “now page”.

Derek Sivers

Because SFS is me sharing what’s going on in my life anyway, my Now Page is kind of a Self-Service Sans-Filter Sunday (lots of Ses): when you want to know what I’m up to, you go to that page and there you go.

Here’s the page: https://peacefulcreativity.com/now/

What do you think about it?

Would a Now Page be useful to you ?

Also, what’s a subject you’d like David & I to talk about in a future episode of PeaCreaLive ?

Peace!

There’s a lot going on! – Sans-Filter Sunday

There’s a lot going on at the moment, so I thought I’d use SFS as a way to keep you guys informed. I’ve been told by several PeaCreaTribe members that they enjoy the diary-aspect of SFS so here we go.

PeaCreaLive!

During the pandemic, David & I started doing a live show on Facebook Live & Youtube. It’s called PeaCreaLive and it’s a lot of fun!
We had episodes with guests, without guest, with live intro music, with 80ies outro music, last episode a monkey sang our theme song. This is pure expression.
You can watch full episodes on David’s new Youtube Channel ReLOVEution, and mainly join us live … some weekdays. The best way to be informed about the show is to subscribe to reLOVEution channel or to friend me on facebook.com/arnaudcz

If you like SFS, you should definitively check PeaCreaLive because it’s also very vulnerable and authentic: we talk about problems that matter to us and are appearing in our lives, David & I.

And it’s Live! so you can ask your questions and even bring the theme of the episode!

Coaching!

I’m coaching a lot at the moment and it’s an absolute joy.
I’ve got a new coaching page on coach.me (where I just got a new certification, yay!), I still help creative materialize their masterpiece (with one in particular who I believe is gonna be big in the months to come) and now I started coaching a new group of people that I call ‘scary men’.

Lemme explain 😅

In one of PeaCreaLive! episode, I talk about my fear list.
Most morning, I write my journal which is a mix of different journaling techniques I discovered along the way.
One of this techniques, I call “taking the tea with my inner-Woody Allen”.

He tells me about everything he (me) fears, is anxious, angry or depressed about.

Then I take this list and turn it into a to do list.

And one fear that kept coming was the fear of more successful men than me in the field of career and finance.
Like, the moment someone tells me he’s the CEO of company xyz or a big shot in the corporate world, I feel scared and inferior.

So I decided to coach those ‘scary men’.

Because growth is often hidden behind our fears.

Luckily several of my friends are successful ‘scary men’ …and really they are not that scary (they are my friends, after all) so I made a deal with them and started to coach them. So far so good.

PeaCreaPod

I have a block regarding editing the podcast.

I love to reach out to people & I love to have those deep conversations…

but when comes the moment to edit the audio, put the music, cut it, then write all the texts around the episode + promotion, my motivation flanches (no clue if this is a real english word).

Kris has been amazing with that for several episodes and I built some new systems to make the work faster and more efficient but we still have 4 recorded episodes which are unreleased.

The good news is I have several new exciting guests scheduled for interview and I don’t want the backlog to accumulate so

we’ll be releasing one new episode every week for a few weeks!

or at least we’ll try, because as I said,

there’s a lot going on.

Peace!

ps: and what’s going on with you ? let me know in the comments

Look at this Horse – Sans-Filter Sunday

Look at this horse.

Take a bit of time and look at it.

No really, you’re still thinking about what you were doing before opening this email.

Please look at it and let the emotions, the thoughts, the reaction come to the surface.

You’re entitled to your own perception of this piece of art.
This is a unique gift you have and no one else has it.

If you read on, I’ll give you my perception and interpretation of this Horse and it will taint yours.

So savor it while it’s pure.

 

Actually you know what, why don’t you write down what this Horse brought in you?

I mean before you read what’s coming.
Then you can put it in the comments and we can talk about it.

Sounds fun, I hope you’ll do it.

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A Hell of a Week (volume 2) – Sans-Filter Sunday

This is a short one.

You have other things to do and so do I.

I should’ve edited the podcast this week, instead I made peace with my fear of being paranoid, took action and actually left the city with my family.

I couldn’t do it without my coach.
Or maybe I’d have done it a week later. Or a month.
Coaching truly took me from “maybes” to action.

Now the actions are behind me and I’m very very  very happy about it.

I said it on social but if you’re stressed out or lost, send me a line and I’ll coach you for free, no question asked.

We’re in this together, guys.

Please Punch Me – Sans-Filter Sunday

The creative process behind Sans-Filter Sunday is funny: the whole week before I write it, I’m convince it’ll be on Theme A…and when I start writing it, boom, Theme B.

You’re getting Theme B today and here’s the Theme A you miss: I found a way to turn fear and anxiety into excitement and spent most of this week in a state of bliss thanks to that.

It radically changed the way I look at the world and infused me with optimisim.

It’s awesome, frankly.

And so easy to do.

So glad I found this stuf.

Anyway, on to Theme B : Please Punch Me.


7 Years ago, in March 2013, I became a Toastmaster and it was amazing.

I didn’t know at the time but by attending meetings, speaking, leading and learning I was consuming a perfect flow-triggering cocktail.
According to this guy risk is one of the key element to trigger flow. In our mind getting on stage and speaking in front of a crowd is a big risk. It brings similar of physiological reaction as taking more classical risks like extreme sport or picking up a fight with someone.

So, unbeknownst to me, I was getting a shot of flow every-time I’d go on stage at Toastmaster and I loved it.

I Ronnie Sullivaned Toastmaster:

in one semester, I completed 10 prepared speeches, gained my Competent Communicator diploma and fulfilled all of the requirements for the Competent Leader award as well.

A friend of mine took 4 years to do the same.

I met awesome people, learned a ton, it was close to my place…yet after that one semester I stopped.

The reason ?

Not enough punches.
Let me explain.


A big part of Toastmasters is feedback & evaluation.
During a meeting,
Bob speaks,
Pavla evaluates Bob,
Jean-Jacques evaluates Pavla.

And I loved that: so much feedback, so much chances to improve.

But by the end of that semester, after I’d talk, people would clap, compliment but didn’t  give me advice to improve.

I was far from the best speaker I could be, yet people mistook my calm on stage to mastery and were afraid to feedback.

I missed the punches and moved on to another activity where I could grow.

Now I’m back in Toastmaster, I changed club and I told them clearly: Please Punch Me. You’re not helping me if you’re not telling me what I can improve.

We’ll see if they do it, my next Key Note speaking project is in less than 20 days.

Yesterday, unrelated to Toastmasters, someone punched me hard.

And it was … not awesome 😀

But that’s what I need.


The PeaCrea Team and I have been working on a corporate-facing website for a few months now. Here it is:
www.creativeleadership.cz

Everybody complimented this website:

“wow,
amazing,
super professional,
it’s great”

– Everybody

And because I’m just a human and building a business takes a lot of energy, I was glad for the positivity and didn’t  look further.
I take full responsibility for this and am grateful for those who thought they were helping with their compliment (plus I believe some of those were sincere).

So yesterday when I showed creativeleadership.cz to an HR friend who could actually be a client, I felt pretty confident.

Ouch.

  • People in the video look like they don’t care about your workshop.
  • I read your whole website, I don’t know what you’re doing
  • This, this and this sentence contain absolutely no information
  • Look at this, this and this competitor websites. They look creative and different (subtext: you don’t)
  • There’s not even your phone number.

Ouch.

But thanks!

That’s what  I needed,  today I have a session with Kris about how to correct the website and make it better.

The website will be more efficient, bring more clients and we will thrive.

Compare that to thinking my web is awesome, showing it to potential client who tell me ‘we’ll call you back’ and never hear from them…I much prefer getting punched than that!

The truth or an honest feedback  may hurt in the moment but it really is the path to success, growth and a well-examined life.

So, please punch me.

I know I’ll stand back up, wiser, ready to move forward.

and by the way, if you’re building something you care about, you need punches too…lemme know if I can help with that 😉

March to the Sales – Sans-Filter Sunday

I know you were expecting a podcast episode this week.

I switched and did a SFS instead because:

1/ I didn’t have the resource to produce an episode this week [insert Patreon link that I don’t have yet]
2/ I actually appeared in a podcast this very week, here’s the link. I’m super proud of it…and of course it’s with my man David Papa <3

This week had some really great moments in it even though all of them were dimmed by me being mildly sick:

On Monday, I taught music arrangement to a friendly rocker.
On Tuesday, I was coached by the amazing Ben Pages who helped me create a flow triggering anchor through NLP (& Kanye West).
On Wednesday, I made a great work collaboration.
On Friday,  I completed the 4th of the 4 triad coaching of my coaching course.
On Saturday, I lead my first large scale workshop with 50 people.


Oh,man,

you are the best.

 

You DID notice  and asked yourself “and what about Thursday?”
So great to have you as a reader <3

On Thursday I had a conversation that prompted my March to the Sales.
This is what this SFS is about.

And it might make some of you unsubscribe.

*taking a deep breath*
Here we go.

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A Hell of a Week – Sans-Filter Sunday

Man, this week was Rock’n’Roll.

It actually feels more like 2 weeks happened in the space of one.

In order to maintain the illusion of control on our Laifu, my Waifu and I like to do a Plan de la Semaine during which we define the key points of the upcoming week in order to get prepared and reduce anxiety & stress.

Boy, this week it didn’t work.

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What do you do when it hurts?

Hey!
Sans-Filter Sunday!
Now publiééé!
If you’re confused by this post, it’s okayyy.

Every 2 weeks, I write a short blurb of thoughts almost UN-edited about something I’m currently thinking about.
It’s called Sans-Filter Sunday (SFS).
The subject and treatments are rawer or more controversial than what I usually write or podcast about.


SFS used to be only for PeaCreaTribe members, partially because I was afraid to share it with the world at large.  However, the amount of positive feedback I got about it finally gave me the strength to put it on my blog.

Thanks again to the PeaCreaTribe to help me be myself in public.

So this week’s SFS is titled :


What do you do when it hurts?

A friend asked me recently:
“What are things that hurt you ?”

It took me a while to answer because it sounded like an important question and I don’t like to half-ass-answer important questions.

I thought about it and in the end, I said ‘everything’.

In that moment, I couldn’t pinpoint particular things, persons or events that would ‘hurt’ me.
Pain is just a cloud that appears and disappears in my life.

Sometimes, I feel hurt and I construct an explanation of why that is based on the external environment:

  • maybe I realize hours after an interaction what I should’ve said,
  • maybe I get fired from my job,
  • maybe my favorite sport team lost
(one of those 3 affirmations is complete bullshit, you get a kiss on a cheek of your choice if you find it).

But upon examination it becomes clear that the external events has little to do with the pain.


Once a cashier wasn’t nice to me and it made me cry.
Another time a cashier wasn’t nice to me and I didn’t notice.

The external events have little to do with the pain.


Events & triggers

There are internal events like our thoughts & our sensations.
There are external events like the sounds, sights and people around us.

Those events trigger something inside us and sometimes that something is pain.
Rather than why it works this way and which events trigger pain in me, I’d like to address the question of


What do you do when it hurts?

I was at a concert Yesterday.
One of the band did a (convincing) cover of Hurt by NIN. Here’s the first verse

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that’s real


I disagree that pain is “the only thing that’s real”.

Love is super real.
So are donuts.

But Pain is a great way to come back to something we keep running from: the present.
The Here and Now.

I don’t purposely hurt myself to be in the Now but when an external event triggers it,
I focus on the pain
the only thing that’s real (along with donuts)

Because this is the way to heal it and truly give ourselves the love we deserve.

The external events have little to do with the pain.

Spending time & energy on external events ‘resolution’ isn’t an efficient way to heal

…it just masks the pain for some times.

Say you’re sad “because” you wanted to say something to someone but didn’t.

You can turn what you should’ve said to that person in your head for days, you can text that person, try to recreate the conditions and finally say what you wanted to say that time.

But this is all in vain.

You will feel momentarily relieved then another external event will come and bring the pain back.

Here’s what Michael Brown, author of the magnificent Presence Process recommends (and I paraphrase cause I’m too lazy to find for the exact quote):

By being with the pain when it arises, you’re giving unconditional love to yourself.
That love you were denied as a child (one way or the other) and are trying to find in the world.
You are the only one who can provide it.

So…What do you do when it hurts?

I don’t know what you do and how you ‘deal’ with the pain, but here’s what I do:

 

  • I ignore the external events that seemingly caused the pain
  • I make time and space for myself
  • I breath a tad faster and I focus on the pain, sometimes for 5 min sometimes for 15, sometimes just for a few moments
  • I go through my happy-check list to make sure I have the physiological and mental basis to welcome happiness (more on that later)

 

To be honest with you,

I wrote this as a reminder for myself.

I feel some pain at the moment and I’m not sure why.

Maybe it’s just the fall back of the happiness spike that was finding the white whitewater.

But I don’t need to know why.

All I need to do is:

  • ignore the external events that seemingly caused the pain
  • make time and space for myself
  • breath and focus on the pain
  • go through my happy-check list


and that’s what I’m going to do right now.

Peace!

Served Sans-Filter by ArnaudCZ

That’s how it was supposed to end but,

after I wrote the above and followed my own advice. I did something extra that is impactful enough to be worth me f*cking up the nice conclusion of this SFS.

So I,

  • ignored the external events that seemingly caused the pain
  • made time and space for myself
  • breathed and focused on the pain
  • went through my happy-check list

BUT THEN

I went outside and talked to those external events.
I literally said everything that came through my mind regarding what could’ve possibly caused the pain.

I talked with people who were not there & I talked with my inner child, I talked with Life itself.

And it felt great!

Notice that I do that after I spent time with the pain itself, so that the healing process is done.
Then I emptied the bag.

And notice that I didn’t empty the bag in order to find solutions to those external events. I focused on expression without expectation.

If it’s your First Sans-Filter Sunday

They are not all like this.

Sometimes I talk about Magic the Gathering & deodorant.

If you’re a PeaCreaTribe Member

You are still VIP <3

You receive the SFS and the podcast episode first.

You still have the ad-free version of the podcast.

There will be some Sans-Filter Sunday for PeaCreaTribe Members only (like the one from last Wednesday)

Thank you for your support.

When the creativity source is dry

This weekend, I heard about a dude who wrote 5 books in 2 years while having a day job.
An impressive display of creative output.

Yet, as a creativity coach, people regularly approach me to address their “creative blocks”.
One of them recently told me  ‘the little stories stopped forming in my head’. Having myself experienced times in my life when the ‘little stories’ (or little melodies) stopped, I know the kind of despair it can put on a creative person.

I’ve wrote about Writer’s block in the past but today I’ll focus on times when it feels like nothing comes to mind, the desert, in other words: when the creativity source is dry.

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