March to the Sales – Sans-Filter Sunday

I know you were expecting a podcast episode this week.

I switched and did a SFS instead because:

1/ I didn’t have the resource to produce an episode this week [insert Patreon link that I don’t have yet]
2/ I actually appeared in a podcast this very week, here’s the link. I’m super proud of it…and of course it’s with my man David Papa <3

This week had some really great moments in it even though all of them were dimmed by me being mildly sick:

On Monday, I taught music arrangement to a friendly rocker.
On Tuesday, I was coached by the amazing Ben Pages who helped me create a flow triggering anchor through NLP (& Kanye West).
On Wednesday, I made a great work collaboration.
On Friday,  I completed the 4th of the 4 triad coaching of my coaching course.
On Saturday, I lead my first large scale workshop with 50 people.


Oh,man,

you are the best.

 

You DID notice  and asked yourself “and what about Thursday?”
So great to have you as a reader <3

On Thursday I had a conversation that prompted my March to the Sales.
This is what this SFS is about.

And it might make some of you unsubscribe.

*taking a deep breath*
Here we go.

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A Hell of a Week – Sans-Filter Sunday

Man, this week was Rock’n’Roll.

It actually feels more like 2 weeks happened in the space of one.

In order to maintain the illusion of control on our Laifu, my Waifu and I like to do a Plan de la Semaine during which we define the key points of the upcoming week in order to get prepared and reduce anxiety & stress.

Boy, this week it didn’t work.

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Jade James – Microbiology, talking with JC and succeeding as a single mum entrepreneur (PeaCreaPod #203)

I reserve my tears for things that you can’t fix […] with time or money.

– Jade James

Jade James (@StartStudyingLikeABoss) is a study coach, a microbiologist and an inspiring friend of mine..

We talk about Her work as a ‘Life coach for teens’, her past as a scientist and how talking with JC helped her in several dark parts of her life.

If you’re an entrepreneur, a woman or simply curious about the difference between tuberculosis and cheese, this episode is for you.

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What do you do when it hurts?

Hey!
Sans-Filter Sunday!
Now publiééé!
If you’re confused by this post, it’s okayyy.

Every 2 weeks, I write a short blurb of thoughts almost UN-edited about something I’m currently thinking about.
It’s called Sans-Filter Sunday (SFS).
The subject and treatments are rawer or more controversial than what I usually write or podcast about.


SFS used to be only for PeaCreaTribe members, partially because I was afraid to share it with the world at large.  However, the amount of positive feedback I got about it finally gave me the strength to put it on my blog.

Thanks again to the PeaCreaTribe to help me be myself in public.

So this week’s SFS is titled :


What do you do when it hurts?

A friend asked me recently:
“What are things that hurt you ?”

It took me a while to answer because it sounded like an important question and I don’t like to half-ass-answer important questions.

I thought about it and in the end, I said ‘everything’.

In that moment, I couldn’t pinpoint particular things, persons or events that would ‘hurt’ me.
Pain is just a cloud that appears and disappears in my life.

Sometimes, I feel hurt and I construct an explanation of why that is based on the external environment:

  • maybe I realize hours after an interaction what I should’ve said,
  • maybe I get fired from my job,
  • maybe my favorite sport team lost
(one of those 3 affirmations is complete bullshit, you get a kiss on a cheek of your choice if you find it).

But upon examination it becomes clear that the external events has little to do with the pain.


Once a cashier wasn’t nice to me and it made me cry.
Another time a cashier wasn’t nice to me and I didn’t notice.

The external events have little to do with the pain.


Events & triggers

There are internal events like our thoughts & our sensations.
There are external events like the sounds, sights and people around us.

Those events trigger something inside us and sometimes that something is pain.
Rather than why it works this way and which events trigger pain in me, I’d like to address the question of


What do you do when it hurts?

I was at a concert Yesterday.
One of the band did a (convincing) cover of Hurt by NIN. Here’s the first verse

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that’s real


I disagree that pain is “the only thing that’s real”.

Love is super real.
So are donuts.

But Pain is a great way to come back to something we keep running from: the present.
The Here and Now.

I don’t purposely hurt myself to be in the Now but when an external event triggers it,
I focus on the pain
the only thing that’s real (along with donuts)

Because this is the way to heal it and truly give ourselves the love we deserve.

The external events have little to do with the pain.

Spending time & energy on external events ‘resolution’ isn’t an efficient way to heal

…it just masks the pain for some times.

Say you’re sad “because” you wanted to say something to someone but didn’t.

You can turn what you should’ve said to that person in your head for days, you can text that person, try to recreate the conditions and finally say what you wanted to say that time.

But this is all in vain.

You will feel momentarily relieved then another external event will come and bring the pain back.

Here’s what Michael Brown, author of the magnificent Presence Process recommends (and I paraphrase cause I’m too lazy to find for the exact quote):

By being with the pain when it arises, you’re giving unconditional love to yourself.
That love you were denied as a child (one way or the other) and are trying to find in the world.
You are the only one who can provide it.

So…What do you do when it hurts?

I don’t know what you do and how you ‘deal’ with the pain, but here’s what I do:

 

  • I ignore the external events that seemingly caused the pain
  • I make time and space for myself
  • I breath a tad faster and I focus on the pain, sometimes for 5 min sometimes for 15, sometimes just for a few moments
  • I go through my happy-check list to make sure I have the physiological and mental basis to welcome happiness (more on that later)

 

To be honest with you,

I wrote this as a reminder for myself.

I feel some pain at the moment and I’m not sure why.

Maybe it’s just the fall back of the happiness spike that was finding the white whitewater.

But I don’t need to know why.

All I need to do is:

  • ignore the external events that seemingly caused the pain
  • make time and space for myself
  • breath and focus on the pain
  • go through my happy-check list


and that’s what I’m going to do right now.

Peace!

Served Sans-Filter by ArnaudCZ

That’s how it was supposed to end but,

after I wrote the above and followed my own advice. I did something extra that is impactful enough to be worth me f*cking up the nice conclusion of this SFS.

So I,

  • ignored the external events that seemingly caused the pain
  • made time and space for myself
  • breathed and focused on the pain
  • went through my happy-check list

BUT THEN

I went outside and talked to those external events.
I literally said everything that came through my mind regarding what could’ve possibly caused the pain.

I talked with people who were not there & I talked with my inner child, I talked with Life itself.

And it felt great!

Notice that I do that after I spent time with the pain itself, so that the healing process is done.
Then I emptied the bag.

And notice that I didn’t empty the bag in order to find solutions to those external events. I focused on expression without expectation.

If it’s your First Sans-Filter Sunday

They are not all like this.

Sometimes I talk about Magic the Gathering & deodorant.

If you’re a PeaCreaTribe Member

You are still VIP <3

You receive the SFS and the podcast episode first.

You still have the ad-free version of the podcast.

There will be some Sans-Filter Sunday for PeaCreaTribe Members only (like the one from last Wednesday)

Thank you for your support.

Ian Fidance – Love, gratefulness and vulnerability in comedy (PeaCreaPod #202)

I used to use humor as an escape […] that would make me not feel the pain I was feeling at the time. If I can do that for someone else, I’m doing what I was put on this earth to do.

– Ian Fidance

Ian Fidance (@ianimal) is a New York City comic who’s been described as a “power act” by Dave Attell. Ron Bennington has called him one of the most unique comics working today. A popular podcast guest on Legion of Skanks, Real Ass Podcast, and Cum Town, Ian can be heard weekly on Comedy Central Radio’s “You Up? With Nikki Glaser” and performs nightly at the Comedy Cellar in the heart of New York City’s Greenwich Village. .

We talk about We talk about vulnerability in comedy, creating from a place of Love & positivity and much more. Also, we spoil Joker.

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Jonas Zboril – Parenting, Creativity and the true meaning of Happiness (and gravity) (PeaCreaPod #201)

If you’re bored with your life and you find it uninspiring but you want to create, go look at science websites… and you’ll be amazed.

– Jonas Zboril

Jonas Zboril (@jonaszboril) is the author of 2 books of poetry, 4 albums with his band Sundays On Clarendon Road and a regular contributor on Radio Wave shows Starter, Liberatura & Houpacky.

We talk about the struggle and beauties of being a creative dad, Jonas’ various projects and, of course, gravity (obviously).

Jonas is a long time friend and it was a pleasure to exchange with him on these topics. If you want insights on creativity, parenting or preparing for the end of the world, you’ll love this episode.

Listen to episode #201 of the Peaceful Creativity Podcast with guest Jonas Zboril on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Ad-free on Peaceful Creativity.

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Show Notes

Jonas’s
Instagram: @jonaszboril
Twitter: /
Facebook: /
Website: coming soon

Sundays on Clarendon Road album:
Solid State  
Walking into Limbo
Unward

Jonas’ novella dvojmesti (coming soon)
Jonas’ second book of poetry Nova Divocina

radio wave
starter
liberatura
houpacka


Zemědělské muzeum (laboratory of silence)

People (& bands) mentioned in the episode

Steakhouse Orchestra (Facebook)
Sundays on Clarendon Road (Instagram)
Honza Tuma
Coldplay
Thom Yorke
Burial’s Untrue
Phil Collins
Craig Mason script note

If I forgot something, please send me a line at arnaud@peacefulcreativity.com and I’ll complete it.


Thanks for Listening and as always, Peace!

Arnaud

Kaia Brown – Burlesque, EthnoBass and the importance of taking risks (peacreapod#108)

Kaia Brown (@realkaiabrown) is the lead singer of N.O.H.A. , Amusement Park and performs in Prague Burlesque as the seductive but dangerous Coca Valente.
Kaia courageously tells us about the glamorous world of Burlesque, being a mum and how she navigates the gap in between.
An authentic interview for performers, parents, and anyone interested in building a career in the arts.

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Travis O’Neill – Dual Creativity, harnessing the Ego & Ayahuasca (peacreapod#107)

Travis O’Neill (@travis_o_neill) is the singer of Pipes and Pints, the Lowdead and Travis O’Neill and his Cardinal Sins.
He’s also a former athlete, a MMA commentator and a highly positive fellow! 
We talk about how he adapts his creative approach to each band, life as a foreigner musicians in Prague. Then we dig deeper on subjects like Ego (and how to use it), creative Control, spirituality, ayahuasca and much more. 

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